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I’ll keep this post simple for y’all.
If you don’t like me, or my content, or just anything about me really - I don’t honestly care.
It’s really that easy.
(Yeah right Briana. If you didn’t care, why would you be dedicating an entire blog post just to tell me that you don’t really care).
Here’s the thing. I have no room in my life for negativity or hate or leftover grudges from the past. And if I really do dislike you, it’s for a real legitimate reason.
That said, I don’t really remember the things that used to bother me in college. If I still held onto all that negative energy, I would never be able to grow and move on as a person.
So, what’s the point of this post then?
Yesterday, while I was at work, I got an Instagram DM. Since I send out a LOT of DMs on insta (responding to stories or complimenting instas), I didn’t think twice about it.
The person who had DMed me asked why I would DM a compliment instead of comment on the post. I explained how I thought the DM was more personal and how I was worried a comment might come off sarcastically.
Without getting too in detail, this person went on a tirade about how we were never friends in college and how she didn’t think my compliments were sincere. Take a look at one of her messages below.
First thing out of the way: clearly this girl has some serious issues with me that she's been harboring for months or years. But did she really think that attacking me over INSTAGRAM DM was going to solve anything??? I am 22 and a working adult for god's sake. Don't get me wrong, I am not saying I am an angel. This whole post basically says I am anything but. My biggest issue was when she told me my comments were not genuine enough for her.
Note: if I wasn’t genuine, why would I take the time out of my day to comment on your post? I don’t do this for FUN. If you have no clue what I’m talking about, check out my post on social media here. The point is, if I give you a compliment (whether with a comment or a DM), I GENUINELY MEAN IT. Regardless if we were close in the past, my whole goal is that social media is a welcome space for EVERYONE.
And I get it. Not everyone will like me. I am loud and stubborn and can be incredibly petty. We all have flaws, right? Don’t throw stones if you live in a glass house, my friends.
My whole goal with this social media kick is that I want social media to make us feel GOOD, not BAD.
After feeling pretty down, I reached out to some of my sorority sisters.
God, what would I do without them. They quite literally pick me up when I’m down.
In summary, if you don’t like me - that’s fine! If i piss you off - thats okay. If you don’t like that I comment on your posts - tell me and I’ll stop!
But I’m not going to change, or apologize, for who I am.
Don’t let others tear you down. There are a million bible verses and song lyrics and books and movies (etc) that have this message. So here’s yet another reminder:
Even when you get a nasty DM that might ruin your day - remember who you are. Don’t let other people make you question what makes you, you.
Because just being you is pretty damn awesome.
Until next time,